…since we walked trough the metal gate into the orphanage that housed our daughters. We can still smell the smells…We can still hear the sounds…We can still see building where our daughters lived. But with all these memories, we can still see those smiles that could conquer darkness. Six months ago today, we arrived in Knoxville tired and smelly, but a family of six (seven, if you ask Meredith…the family dog, Cookie, has to be included in everything).
The past six months have been an unbelievable adventure. Many of the paths we were well aware of, but some were sharp turns like you see in Temple Run. We would like to say we were well prepared for all the tears, and all the meltdowns…we would like to say we were anticipating the emotional affect it would have on our two oldest girls. I (Jarred) got my orienteering merit badge in scouts, but this was a little harder to navigate.
With all that said, through the meltdowns and the laughs, we find ourselves alive and excited about all that God has done and will continue to do in our family.
What are some of the things we learned:
- We have given in to Yeye’s continual demands to be called Yeye and not Marie. Yep, she’s gonna be one of “those people” who go by a name that’s not on their birth certificate.
- Yeye and Sifa are like any other child (or 35 year old dad)…they hate shots.
- They fit into our family perfectly…all four of our daughters know how to nitpick
- Yeye’s favorite word to say to me (Jarred) is “no”…here favorite word to say to Jen is “yes”.
- Yeye still can’t walk anywhere without dancing.
- Sifa already has that exasperated 16 year old attitude when you ask her how her day was.
- Every couple of weeks, someone stops us and asks us if we need help with their hair (still not sure why).
- They LOVE to sing…loudly.
- They got groove (clearly they got this from their dad).
- Meredith and Mikayla have assumed the older sister role that Sifa thought was hers…it took some time, but believe me, M&M have established their authority. And they are really good at being big sisters.
- Yeye no longer likes chocolate…not sure how that happened, but this makes dessert time a little more difficult.
- Sifa knows how to roll her eyes…needless to say this is a habit we are trying to break now.
- Sifa is about to finish Kindergarten…she has come a long way.
Their English is pretty good, but there have been a few things lost in translation. Sifa often tells me, “Daddy, you stink good” (with two thumbs up), and Yeye can be heard frequently letting us know that her “mouth is hungry.”
These are just a few of the things we’ve learned about our daughters and our family. We don’t have it all figured out, but we are grateful for the call that God has laid on our hearts and led us to these two wonderful little girls. They know they are loved…they know they have a home…they know they are wanted…they know they are family.
As they’ve learned English, we have seen them find the satisfaction of being heard and being understood. That was difficult for them in the beginning, and probably the root of most of the melt downs, but when they are listened to and loved, they grow more and more comfortable with this family of which they are now a part.
Thank you for loving our daughters enough to follow our story.
Jarred & Jen