I’ll admit it…it’s getting more difficult every day to pastor students today. I think it’s this growing difficulty that is causing student pastors to change their mentality of ministry or even in some cases it’s caused pastors to change who they are. Believe me, I know those urges, but I think it’s something that we have wrestle with if we’re going to continue to lean into the lives of students.
My next few posts will be specifically to student pastors as encouragement to not just lead, but to lead strong. In order to do this, there are some things we have to overcome.
FIGHT THE URGE: To Tippy-Toe Around Certain Topics In Order to Not Upset Students or Parents.
I think it’s important for to remember what we have been called to do. The world of a student is complicated and we are supposed to partner with parents and lean into the lives of their student(s) with the love of Christ. But for some reason, we have equated leaning into the lives of students with encouraging, but not challenging.
The last thing we want to do is upset someone. We don’t want them to be mad at us, and to some degree, we don’t want them mad at God; so we speak to them and craft messages that may be excellent and biblical, but we avoid topics that may challenge a lifestyle and/or decisions they are making. We avoid topics like homosexuality and abortion with students because we think they can hear that on Sundays from the pulpit. We would rather speak on topics like missions and how to live a radical life, and avoid topics that may cause heartburn. If this is your mentality you are mis-understanding the task at hand, because avoiding (or ignoring) hard topics could very well lead to tolerance and acceptance of sin. Let’s be transparent for a second, how many of you have students who have friends who struggle with Same Sex Attraction (SSA) and instead of speaking truth into their lives with love and truth, they avoid the topic and show acceptance of both the sin and the lifestyle?
How will students know how to lovingly lean into the lives of those struggling with SSA, or even someone who is thinking about having an abortion, if you haven’t been speaking the truth of the Scripture into their lives. It’s not an “every-once-in-a-while” conversation, because these topics are shaping culture. We must speak truth while encouraging students to reshape the culture they live in by that same truth which has so radically changed our own lives. This is the truth that breathes life into the dead.
It’s not a bad thing to be bold. It’s not a bad thing to speak truth. It’s not a bad thing to speak truth into a culture that is confused as to what truth really is.
Some topics aren’t as controversial: Sports, time management, the stuff we listen to, the things we tweet. Challenge students on some of these topics and see what happens. I promise you’ll get some huffing and puffing and maybe even an unfollow or two on Twitter. But if you don’t challenge them, who will?
Dear Student Pastor, don’t tippy-toe…walk normal and speak loudly!
What are some topics we avoid as to not offend students and parents?